Sunday, May 12, 2013

Mother's Day.

It's a mixed day for me, quite honestly, because of a complicated relationship with my own mother. Then again, I'm a mother, so there is that good part of it.  In honor of the day, then, some flowers from my yard to all the mothers out there.




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  1. Not that you ever need validating, but still...truly a great gift!

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    1. I do indeed need validating. Who doesn't?

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  2. That's a very sweet story. A lovely gift.

    Have a great day, today (well, every day, but you know what I mean.)

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  3. ....and he didn't want to wind up on his death bed without having let you know.

    Happy Mother's Day.

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    1. I did get the sense that he felt like he'd regret not saying it.

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  4. "I felt like I had just been handed a gift that carried no expectations, and I gratefully tucked it away in my heart."

    (((((( You ))))))

    That is soooooooo beautiful! And you ARE special, my friend!

    Happy Mother's Day to you!

    Beautiful photos!

    X

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    1. Thank you. I emailed him today to let him know how much I appreciated that he'd told me and that I considered it a gift.

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  5. Those words are so beautiful and deeply meant for you. What an amazing compliment. That was very sweet of him to tell you. I would love to hear those words from a man.

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  6. Gorgeous flowers from your garden! And a fine compliment from your friend....Hope you have a Very Happy Mothers' Day. Mother/daughter relationships are pretty complicated in my experience.

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    1. Thank you. Mother/son relationships have their issues, I know, but "complicated" was the nicest word I could find for my situation.

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  7. wow...what a cool thing for him to say...and it took a bit of strength to be that honest i am sure...very cool...smiles...you are special...

    hope you have a great mothers day

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    1. I'd have a hard time telling an ex something like that, that's for sure.

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  8. I'm calling that compliment a 'star trek' moment on his part; he ventured into territory where no man has gone before....or few.

    Nice flowers....I actually have crocus blooming, tulips halfway up, and a warmth unheard of for this time of year.

    Happy Mother's Day

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    1. I like that!

      My tulips are long gone. The irises are late spring flowers, so I know we're about to summer.

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  9. Wow, so rarely we hear something so uplifting and how absolutely generous of him to say so. Triple wows and kudos to you.

    yes, I get the mothers thing. Very complicated.

    XO
    WWW

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    1. In a way, a random act of kindness.

      Excruciatingly complicated.

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  10. Amazing. The fact that he didn’t want to repeat the experience there and then says something about him, doesn’t it? Is he just a very faithful kind of man?

    Also, the fact that you didn’t melt into his arms there and then in gratitude says something about you. You must be a very confident woman, not overly given to gratitude for crumbs even of this magnitude.

    I think it’s a great tale.

    As for the mother thing, mum and I had a difficult relationship but I always felt duty bound to remember mother’s day. I also have a difficult relationship with my kids (surprise surprise) who either don’t remember the day or simply decide not to do anything.

    Fair enough.

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    1. I think so - I assume that if he's engaged, that wasn't the intention. I was grateful and hugged him goodbye, but I'd have done that with any friend.

      I feel obligated and I do remember mother's day, but I search for a noncommittal card!

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  11. The fact that it seems to have been hard for him to tell you, makes the compliment even more special. What a lovely thing! Sounds as if he must have been quite good too;)

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    1. I definitely got the impression that it was not something he runs around saying to everyone!

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  12. Wow! Now that's a compliment no one hears very often. Guess that really makes it special. What a wonderful thing that he would let you know. If you were the kind of person to have a tombstone (and I am thinking you are not that kind of person), that would be quite the epitaph!

    Love the flowers. Still waiting here......

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    1. You're right about that - I hope to be cremated and scattered. But now that you mention it - maybe I should have a tombstone. A really giant one, with the entire thing chiseled onto it! :-)

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  13. That was quite a compliment! I'd want to tuck that away in my heart forever too!

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  14. What a lovely post...As for the mother/daughter thing, been there, done that. I hope you had a good day. Thanks for the flowers, too.

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    1. Hi, and welcome. I will be around to visit soon.

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  15. Hope your day was beautiful.

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  16. What a wonderful compliment!

    Sorry I've not been around here much, for some reason your posts haven't been showing up in my reader! Hopefully the problem's resolved now so I can keep up.

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  17. I feel very lucky to have such a wonderful relationship with my mom. And my kids are amazing...and make me feel amazing.

    Beautiful flowers and a beautiful compliment. Very, very touching.

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    1. My kids help balance it all out for me. I try to be who she could not be, as best as I am able. And thanks.

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  18. I think what makes it more special is he didn't say it just afterwards the event. Often that great feeling lingers for awhile afterwards as you relax. But to remember it years later - that is special.

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    1. Yeah, the afeterglow effect tempers any compliment.

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  19. That's quite a compliment. But I can't help thinking, if he sees you as such a great lover, is he also implying that his fiancée is not such a great lover?

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    1. You know, Nick - it wasn't until later that I had the very same thought!

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  20. wow, that really is such a lovely gift. who wouldn't want to hear such praise? that it came so free of any strings or attempt at manipulation just makes it perfect.

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    1. I think the best part was that he did not seem to have any ulterior motive for saying it.

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  21. My mother hates Mother's Day so she tends to nag me if I try to celebrate it. My own kids saw the precedent and tend to blow it off. Bummer.

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    1. My kids make me cards, but that's about the extent of it.

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  22. So...what makes you good at it? Share the love. I've only ever been with one man and likely ever will be, so I'm always curious about how other people do sex.

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    1. Since I don't know what other women do, I couldn't begin to say what the difference is. I don't think I "do" anything in particular. And I don't know if I've changed over the years with different men. It's a mystery.

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  23. What a lovely, lovely thing for him to say!

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  24. The best moments of life are the ones you don't see coming and are without agenda. LOVE.

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